W dropped the bomb towards the end of Aug 09. Agreed immediately to MC which has been ineffective due to her unwillingness to work on the M based on a 3rd party being in the mix. I buried my head in the sand for to long time even though I had a very strong gut feeling that something was going on but didn't confirm it. We had multiple discussions about the 3rd party but of course she denied it the whole time. Based on a stong suspicion I confronted W and stated she needed to decide between OM and family. She stated they were just friends and wouldn't stop talking with him.
My fear was confirmed after Christmas and since then I have enaged my L and started drafting a separation agreement. By the end of next week we should have a move out agreement in place and thus provide her and myself with protection so she can move out. After that the legal separation will be finalized and we then wait a year until we can D.
I am not overly optimistic about the possiblity of reconcilation. I have dropped the rope and am moving forward with my life. While I do love my W I will not stay in a toxic relationship any longer. The choice is now hers to decide if she wants to work on this R/M in the future.
I will continue to be a strong role model to my boys and focus on improving my life and happiness.
Last edited by Kemper; 01/07/1008:59 PM.
M 33 | W 34 | Kids: S4, S3 M: 5/28/05 Bomb: 8/22/09 EA: 8/1/09 | PA 12/26/09 W L: 10/21/09 M L: 11/16/09 | 12/09 to file SA W & Boys Move Out: 3/14/10
