I dropped the rope to ladybug. Not myself. I am still pondering those thoughts.
I only got a "B-" in DB catechism class, but I'm unaware that there's any distinction. "Dropping the Rope" -- like GALing -- is done for ONESELF, not for the wayward/walkaway spouse, and it must be GENUINE.
If you haven't dropped it yourself, then I would submit that you haven't dropped it. [b][/b] And this:
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No anger. No fear. I don't know. I do not hide the hurt and disappointment. I just felt it was time to let ladybug know that she no longer has control over me.
I'm quite sure that that's your INTENTION, and your PERCEPTION of your situation. But sometimes (usually? always???) we are too close to our own sitches to see clearly. I am only pointing out what jumped out at me -- some of your posts seethe with anger, just below their surface.
Dunno. Maybe I'm the only one. But I'm guessing that your wife probably senses the same thing (I'm just a DAM, and really not all that intuitive).
Also, it's kind of a "methinks thou doth protest too greatly" thing. If one says, over and over, "YOU DON'T CONTROL ME . . . YOU DON'T CONTROL ME . . .I'M GOING TO SHOW YOU, YOU DON'T CONTROL ME . . .", then they kinda still control you, kwim??
Puppy
Thanks Puppy. I think your right. I think I may have got caught up here in everything from the xmas break. I do feel something has changed. I am just beginning to process those thoughts. It is good to get your point of view on it. And I agree with you when you say. Too close to our own stitch to see clearly.
I do hope there is not anger all over this. I do not feel it. But I will watch myself and I hope my DB friends will keep an eye on me. I have never been an angry person. So its an emotion that I do not fully understand.
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