Thanks Puppy. The above is just my sense of humor coming through.
On transperancy, I get what you are saying. My natural inclination is to permit her to offer enough times, then, I take her up on it in a way that has not been offered. Her facial expression will tell me what I need to know. I think of it as part of keeping a weathered eye.
In any event, I need to exhibit more self control in letting her see if it is bothering me. If I am struggling, then she will feel guilt or shame and associate those feelings with me, not her. Coach said step one is to get rid of the negative emotions on both sides. This is where I need to do some work. I will get better at this.
