Going straight forward...antlers 6th thread.

[antlers]

My wife is contributing to it Bridge! Ever since she filed, the relationship with my kids has plummeted. I've asked her to co-parent, co-support, co-everything when it comes to our kids...and all she does is continue to turn them against me. She is full of hatred and vindictiveness and is now using our kids as a weapon against me. They are aleays telling me "mom said you did this" or "mom said you did that". Now they're saying things like "mom said you're trying to spend all the money so she won't get any"! It's so bad!

The kids are so hostile and out of control, and they WILL NOT go to counseling with me. I'd have to physically pick them up and put them in the car, and then they'd try to jump out. It's so bad.

I can't change them...but I can change the way I act and respond when they do this.

I'm working on a couple of different fronts...she has to help with the kids, and right now she's not! She's making things worse with them. The note to her would, in addition to the book, hopefully help or affect her in a positive way. She thinks I'm just a mean bastard and I liked being that way...the book portion would show her another perspective...one
that would be helpful to the situation in several ways. Helping her would encourage her to help me with the kids, instead of intentionally making things worse for me with the kids. And, it would show her the things that you and I have corresponded about...me realizing what it was like for her to live with me.