Personal growth is good for us, no matter what. I know that with my IC, as well as conversations with my H, I am facing some of my own issues and some of my part in where our M was at that made us vulnerable to what happened.... BUT... that none of that ever justifies H's choice to have an A. He could have responded to those things in many different ways. He has to own that. In the meantime, though, me working on these issues for myself is good for ME!
