I think there is a very large grey area between giving him an easy ride into his actions/decisions and you pushing him for/into a divorce.
Remember your bakery analogy? I think that is so very fitting right now.
He has seen your changes. But not much has changed yet. He still trudging ahead, albeit slowly, into his fantasy future. I know how scary every step in a different, new direction must feel to you.
You are incredibly strong and resilient. And you are handling this with much grace and class - more so that I could.
