His wife filed for D after a long stretch of limbo. There are a bunch of us in this limbo state, wanting for it to end one way or another. If W files they do the work for us, just like if they move out of the house on their own, etc.
Got a knife in the heart from W this morning. Just after I described my ritual with the offering candles in my post I actually paid a visit to the church yesterday.
W noticed that the candle was gone and asked me this morning where it was yesterday.
I didn't see any reason to not directly answer her question, so I told her what I had been doing with the candles and how I had visited the church where we were married on a couple of occasions.
She sarcastically told me "you can burn all the candles you want but it isn't going to help you - it is like some sort of shrine over here and I should take all this crap down (our wedding pictures, etc)"
Ouch.
Oh well - I told her that it was my way of dealing with things, just like seeing my IC.
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
