I know, I know, it's a long story but I've come to the conclusion its' best for S to be in his own bed and not carted back and forth, as well as I want to keep an eye on H to make sure he is treating S properly....anyhow, I usually do exactly that - shut myself up in my room and read and do my thing, or go to friends' etc.
I used to cook for everyone, but now I cook for S and I only and H is on his own. Hey, I think I'll buy the popcorn and save it just for S and I. lol.
I know I'm 50% responsible for the marriage breakdown, but i get confused - when he brings up things I've done, I'm supposed to listen and validate, but I also know that blame is a classic abusive standpoint, so maybe I'm supposed to not take it in. Very sad this. I married a different man.
