Can anyone give me examples that don't sound too formal?
When WAH started in on how I didn't bother to get to know him during 10 years of our marriage I said "I can see how you might feel that way." He told me to stop with the psychological crap..
*sigh*
I'm not sure how exactly to validate without sounding phony.. I truly meant what I said, but I'm not used to speaking in a validating way as most of my life has been about pushing through challenges with anger or fear as the fuel, not patience and understanding...I guess it came naturally for me with him in the "honeymoon stage" pre-marriage with no conflicts..
~ This Diamond now SHINES!! ;-p ~
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