It seems counter-intuitive...the reason she made up her mind to leave is because I was too withdrawn...so now I am trying to foucus on pulling back to keep her. WOW.
Exactly! And....you handled yourself very well.
I know it is crazy b/c you seem to have to do the very thing she use to complain about, but that is where so many men have problems trusting the DR technique (detaching) b/c they fear the W will leave.
For you own sake, try your best not to read into things. Her mood swings will continue and she could be "playing" you to cover up her EA (if she is continuing in it). But, IDK right now....just don't get overly excited by these "positive" switches you might see from time to time. You can think of it as a tiny baby step, but don't make more out of it than it is.
If she was crying over not seeing the kids.....that is a good sign b/c if she was deep in the WAW fog, it would not affect her as much (IMO). So, I agree with you about that.
Good job.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
