At some point in time reality is going to hit for them and then answers will come. The questions is, where will I be when it hits.
During my last IC session about a month ago, I discussed that with my counselor and we both arrived at the same conclusion. Only God knows where you will be both physically and emotionally, if we think negatively about it then it will probably be a negative experience for us. If we truly Love our spouses with a deep mature Love, then it will not matter where we are, whether it is in another R or not or if we are content by ourselves. When reality hits them and the answers come, we will/should be happy for them b/c they too have grown personally.
I choose to Love my wife despite her actions and decisions and the pain that they have caused the people around her especially our children. That is a hard choice to make but I do it freely, it feels better on the inside for me and aleviates the pain. On the way back from lunch today in the car, I made the affirmation out loud that I LOVE MY WIFE, but it is a mature Love that I affirm, not a romantic Love. I guess that is why I continue to focus on the positive things not the negative, b/c it makes me feel better, and I want to FEEL better, in fact I want to FEEL GREAT! If I feel great all the time I will be a better person, a better father, a better friend, and a better Husband.
Formerly "missherlove"
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Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
