DDogs, just caught up with your thread. All I can say is to keep your head up. She is moving forward full-steam so let her. You've alrady done your part moving back in, telling her you want to try to make it work, suggesting Retrovaille. If she's not receptive to those things, there is nothing you can do but let her make her move.
That's my impression as well,, "hell be damned, he pissed me off so now I'm going to show him....."
I cannot control her actions, I was planning on letting her drive this train, make her own it,, that unfortunately sounds passive but I agree I can do no more than contact my L, and take steps to legally protect me...
DD
H50 W44 M17 yrs S15 D11 D10 Bomb 4/09 Trial separation/moved out 9/09 Moved back in 12/29/09