Sure, reassurancing your love and marital vows does not seem to have a successful response towards saving your marriage. note: neither will the flip-flopping and the mind f**ks from here on out.
It seemed to me she enjoyed the single life and when you decide to grow a pair, to paraphrase you, she fly swatted your Nuts with a sledge hammer. We will find out if she crushed them when we hear your plan. What you got planned?
My question, your wife, how would she respond if you agreed with her that divorce was the answer and the quicker the time-line the better. And you dropped all reassurances of your love and happy marriage dreams.
Good question SMcQ... before I decide on any particular plan, I'm going to give it a few days to sink in, reflect and review my options.. In the mean time, I plan on going Dim, continue to act pleasant/happy, also "as if", and no R talk.. I also am starting kick boxing classes in a few, to keep GALing....
I'll read more from this board to get ideas, but from what I've been reading so far my best option seems to favor LRT and drop the f'n rope....
As for her response for me agreeing to the D, I'm not sure what she might do. I was planning on not facillitating the D, make her do all of the work, let her own the moment... of course, it would be scary for me to agree and charge ahead with the D if she called my bluff. I don't think she's be the type of person to reconsider just because I suddenly agree, which would be something uncharachteristic of me. Plus She's been pushing for the D for several months now, so that seems unlikely...
Mind you she said she filed 1/4, so haven't even gaotten the papers yet, don't know what to expect there since this is new for me.. I'm a bit worried but unusually calm,
If anyone is seeing something I missed, or a different way of addressing this, please jump in...
DD
H50 W44 M17 yrs S15 D11 D10 Bomb 4/09 Trial separation/moved out 9/09 Moved back in 12/29/09
