Mixed Signals or is this Limbo Land

[MHL]

More detail,
I have laid off the contact since Sunday and the interactions I had or phone calls around exchange of S9 were a little cold on my part. I don't want to say it didn't feel right but I thought she might be moving closer with the friendly approach over the last 2 weeks, I wish the FB/bar thing never happened but it did and now we are going to sit down with her IC to have a joint MC about things moving forward.

Pros
1. Her IC diagnosed her as Co-dependent and knows she should not be in sitch's that involve men or the possibility starting an R with a man.

2. Her IC said early on that she was pro marriage.
3. Meeting with her IC with my W may give me more insight into my W's thinking.
4. Maybe IC will help my W to see the purpose of a Separation is to work on M not let it die slowly and peaceful.
5. My W may be embarrassed about behavior Saturday night, I could get another apology.
6. Will force my W to be honest with kids, if she decides she is going to date.

Cons
1. Her IC may reinforce her decision to Divorce.
2. With her IC there, may give W more resolve to state clearly that she is done.
3. Her IC may start to lecture me, this happened before.
4. I may breakdown and try to ask for whatever. (I won't, I am determined)

I am going to post a new thread in Newcomers tonight for more advice from the DB pros, W is going to set appt and call me back. We will see each other tonight for kid exchange. More thoughts. I will now reread your last post. exhale!!!!