Thanks B/h and I know you mean well but I will address some things you talked about to my post..... 1.What relationship???we dont have one and as far as being stressed who isn't....life is stressful I dont wonder and pine over my husband...( except when I got nosey and you saw where that got me ) 2.I do have peace of mind, be cause God the father has given that to me,I really do have a peace inside of me that surpasses undertanding. 3. I have started that process with the state atty.gen office...they are slow as christmas... 4.I know I dont sound like it at times, but I have started over I have a life, support myself and my daughter, we have our own place and we are coping and believe it or not happy. 5.As as the hurt to get past this,too much damage, is an easy one, I have totally forgiven him as Christ forgave me.... My beliefs are mine and mine only I will keep waiting till God says otherwise.....I have seen so many changes in the both of us maybe this was needed in our lives.....I know my faith is stronger than it has EVER been and for that I am grateful...thanks B/H I think I just witnessed to you....be blessed