Start with when he drops off the kids tonight. Wear something cute and smell great. Its o.k if you ask how he is doing and see if that sparks a little conversation. Or maybe if you have the tv on or happen to be reading the paper when he stops by, you can ask if he heard about something major in the news that you would both have ususally noted. Maybe you are baking something in the oven that smells great. Men love the scent of home cooked food!!
It is great news that your S has baseball games coming up. Lots of opportunities there for positive interaction.
It is easy to get into the mode where there is an impasse between you and a great physical and mental gulf develops. Having little interation and conversation becomes a habit that can be hard to break. There are plenty of little opportunities for chatting, smiling, being sexy and relaxed in his presence. You want to give off a I love me and I am a cool, sexy, not desperate woman vibe. But don't try too hard. Be natural and let it flow.
If there is still a little flame of love and desire on the stove you want to stoke it. Not extinguish it. Turn it up gradually. Measure his responses.
It starts with rebuilding a friendship base then taking it from there. Be patient. Do No Harm. If you really want it it will take loads of tmie and patience.
Some of my "advice" may seem ludicrous and head in the sandish. When you are faced with te stark realities of separation and who did what to whom it is very hard to even think of being upbeat and carrying on a light conversation. I think anger and resentment have to take a back seat to being wise and thinking about practical steps to M rebuilding. The time for discussion of heavy feelings will hopefully come. In the meantime work on You and Your responses and feelings in private.
