Another Sad Deployed Soldier/Dad

[TrentC]

if one day has her saying that she loves and misses you, then acknowledge her feelings.

Especially since you said this:

It's hard not to be in contact as we both agreed i would let her know every night that i am able I am still alive and kicking.

So you not being in contact can have her literally fearing for your life? And she might be sitting at home thinking "oh my god, he hasn't emailed me for a couple of days and the last thing I said to him was that I resented him for butting into my business?"

Cut her a little slack. At worst, send her the following every day:

Just letting you know that I'm still alive and kicking. Hug and kiss the kids for me.