Another Sad Deployed Soldier/Dad

[TrentC]

I agree; politely let her know that you appreciate what she said. You don't need to respond in kind.

It's like I told SoldierDad; being deployed is hell for the entire family.

She is raising your kids by herself. She doesn't know when you will be back, and she lives with the fear that the next phone call or knock on the door will be someone in a dress uniform offering their condolences.

She's tired; she's lonely, and this guy might have been at the right place at the right time, and said the right things.

This isn't to apologize for how she is treating you. Hell, I came up with that off of the top of my head and it may have no basis in reality. All I'm trying to say is, try to have a little compassion for her; if one day has her saying that she loves and misses you, then acknowledge her feelings.