Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

I'm not sure why I am allowing myself to feel this way again.

Not sure why I am spending so much of my time and energy worrying about what she is doing with OM.

My L sent me this in reference to sending a letter to OM workplace:

Do not send the letter. The court’s attitude is that once a divorce has been filed the parties have a license to go on with their lives, even with lovers.

This was really a nice kick to the N.U.T.S. Now I have to think that it's OK for her to be with as many OM as she wants-hell, his e-mail really didn't change anything-she was doing it anyway.

Feeling sorry for myself is NOT productive, and all I do is get myself all worked up over things I can't control.

I have to get out of this funk...