I totally agree to your sticking to a pretty consistent schedule and not letting the kids dictate.
Sometimes though, it is good to have one on one time and that is usually not specified in a parenting plan. It is great if parents can cooperate and do that. Because that is how it works when one is married - they dont always do everything with all their children. Plus there are conflicting schedules (ie birthday parties) and you have to be flexible to work as a team.
