Sorry you are here, but you have come to the right place.
I am not a vet, I am the H of WAW in an A and can tell you that the OMW has been a great source of support and info. You should,IMO, get your ducks in a row and talk to her. That's my opinion.
My next advice is this -there are VERY good Veterans and good hearted rookies going thru the same thing on here, give them a little time to chime in and listen to what they offer.
Your in the right place for advice and help.
M43 W43 D11 S7 M18 T20 WAW is back & trying (no she was lying) Close to callin' it busted but.... watching Whatever the outcome - It was a choice.