The most successful thing you can do is give her as much time and space she needs to find herself. (What good do you see coming about by holding her back?)
And by that I mean, you should take as much time and space as you need to find yourself. Understand yourself better especially your codependence issues. Grow as an individual who is happy about himself as an individual, while allowing her the time and the reality to find out if the grass is really greener.
When someone "dumps" you take 30-45 days of no contact to get them out of your system. Live life to its fullest. Start dating. Develop a new attitude about life. One that is more confident and successful at being alone. Isnt this what 22 year old girls are attracted to? The 22 year old girls I know arent attract to mopey, sulking, depressed guys. They are into dancing and having fun and experiencing life to its fullest. They are looking for that confident, decisive, emotionally strong guy to sweep them off their feet. Be that guy.
Realize reconcillation is far more likely when they realize that they have lost you, and they are force to question if they did the right thing. Get out, Get busy, and meet some new people who can take your mind off your wife is your first step.
