Ok...so I just blew via text at H....I am so ANGRY...
H picked up son to take him for a sandwich and drop him off at basketball practice...I said that was fine...even though he calls 2 seconds before he wants to do all this...and he calls our son not me...so I can't say no...
I picked S12 up after basketball practice and he tells me MIL gave him $50 for Christmas and nothing for the girls....I was livid....WTF? I immediately texted H and told him I wish she wouldn't do that because it isn't right...and her is his response...
"He's young in all this. he calls her (he doesnt but whatever)& I take him over there (last time was in July)..She feels the girls r old enough to call their grandparents..She feels she being punished cuz of us"
I responded..."first of all he doesnt call her, second its not US..its wrong..they r children no matter what..your parents have NEVER called me to ask how I was in all this..this is the first time in 31 years we didnt see you at Christmas.."
H said, "I'm speculating..call & ask her"
Treese, "no thx, ur her son..I'm the one who always reminded you to call her...was there for her when she wanted to take a bunch of pill to kill herself at 3:30 in the morning...I'm just shocked...it takes every ounce of strength I have to see u..and even more not to cry in front of the kids. (I know bad DBing, couldn't help it)...u have NO IDEA what we go through...NONE! It all frickin sucks...period!!
H said, "she wanted to give her grandson a Christmas gift"
Treese, "they're your children...defend them...it hurts me...it should hurt you....I'm not blaming you...just think you should stand up for your girls...I even told you to give your mom and dad a hug for me at Christmas....
H said, "I told em...This isn't a stand up for em situation..She is 73 and wants her gkids.."
Treese, "yes it is....WE DIDN'T GET A CHOICE in the sitch..only u..they r children who wants their family that is no longer.go figure..last time you took s12 to see them was in July..it's just one more twist of the knife..I don't want to fight about it, I just feel very strongly about this, you should have told her u couldn't exclude your girls..
That's it....I just couldn't take it anymore...I blew...I haven't in a while but he is acting younger than our kids...
where are the adults here....even his mom is acting like a child...am I wrong here about that...
My H hasn't budged from where he was 2 years ago or 10 years ago...I don't think he ever will...
He has his happiness and wonderful life and that's all he cares about....
AAAUUUGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So, I had to vent it....sorry....had to let it out....
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
