I guess this is the hard part and a question of how to cope to anyone else in a similar sitch - could be similar I guess to those who are still living together. I can't "GO DARK" because of my S5 and the fact that H spends the night at my house three nights per week to be with him.
I have had some small successes when I've ignored H when he's at home, sometimes, this pulls him in and he keeps talking to me. However, I cannot do what some have done and give H full space for months on end until he starts "coming around" = how do you still live your own life and shake them up to make them notice and miss you when you're in their face a lot of time?
