Getting Un"Stuck" - Giving My Burden to God

[v1olin]

Yes, I think you did very well. I think your wife is acting depressed because she is mourning the loss of the OM, not you. My W did the same thing and they never even had sex.

[MrBond]

Thanks v1olin.

Yeah my W's A was an EA with some kissing. They say that when a woman gets an EA it's very hard to turn the tide because they are emotionally invested.

So I decided to call her out on her sh1t. She was so hardcore when she first called, but then was sad and crying in the end. I'm not happy she cried, but I was surprised she did.

[v1olin]

Crying is good for her. Do not be afraid of that.

[v1olin]

I am a firm beleiver in the fact that for a woman, an EA is worse than a PA.

[MrBond]

So does the fact that she cried show that she still is in there somewhere?

[v1olin]

I think it shows that she thinks she has efffed up. That she thinks she now has no OM and no husband.

[v1olin]

my wife cried too but then she would get out her journal that night and write about the OM. Until she comes to you and says, "I want another chance" she is not ready yet.

[confusedinpa]

Stuck

I hate to be a downer nor sound jaded, especially to someone I care about like a brother, but my WAW cried when she appologized too. While still not accepting any responsbility (saying I drove her to seek attention and affection from another guy).

You know all about my crap so please take it for whatever it's worth

I'm pulling for you brother. Hang in there man.

[MrBond]

v1olin and cipa,

Thanks for the input.

Trust me I'm not thinking that she's going to come running back home. Even though she cried, it's going to take alot on her part o make things right.

The main thing I've been noticing is that when I do have these heart to heart talks with her, she does end up crying. Her tough facade melts away and she ends up looking defeated. But oh well.

I asked her to call me tonight to continue our convo from the afternoon.

I'm going to keep that one light. We'll see how tough this nut is going to be to crack.

Wish me luck.

[v1olin]

Good luck Stuck!