ok, i'll continue to follow thru with the advice. She called today from south america to tell me how things are going. we made small talk for a while and then the call got disconnected; i did not call her back. that was 11 am today. she returns in a week and i don't know what to expect. it seems that whenever she returns from some "HIATUS" she seems to have "missed" me, but then we fall back into our old ways? I need to be prepared in what to do when she returns. She'll probably be expecting me to be mushy and lovey dovey. I think the message here is to be unpredictable and somewhat aloof. YES? and to what extent?