Getting Un"Stuck" - Giving My Burden to God

[MrBond]

Update:

So she called me today to say that she is going to have papers drawn up. I tell her fine and ask her again what's her reason. Then she says it's because she didn't love me. So I ask her, if she didn't love me, why didn't she just D me instead of cheating behind my back.

She threatened to hang up, but I told her that I needed to understand in order to heal. I asked her if she liked the person she had become and she didn't answer. I asked her if she liked the person who lied, cheated, blamed me for everything..all the things she's been doing while on her quest for D. Again no answer.

I told her about how we don't communicate and without it, it was no wonder our feelings died. I asked her questions I had, about why she did the things she did. Again no answer. In fact she started crying on the phone. I told her about us not knowing what a healthy M was like and she agreed. I told her it was hard work but the main thing is the understanding that I had her back.

First time I got an emotional response in a long time.

After the conversation, I just sat back and prayed for peace.

I know some are going to think that I rubbed her face in the A. But really, I think some of our WASs believe they are so "entitled" to treat us like crap that they need a little reality check. And I told her it was for "me" to understand, which it was.

Tonight I'm planning to complete the conversation. Do I think it's going to change anything? Nope. But like Michele says, if what you're doing isn't working, do something different. And to a certain point I'm not going to be blamed any longer. No doormat for me.