Getting Un"Stuck" - Giving My Burden to God

[MrBond]

Hi CG,

Thanks for commenting on my thread.

I think no one who gets M truly understands what a healthy M is at the get go. We have to go through all of this to learn and grow. From there, I would like to think that our kids will learn from the positive example they see.

However it should start sometime and hopefully with the WAS's help, that time would be now. They always say that family's who divorce have a high probability of children who will also D. It comes from them not getting that role model to begin with.

If your H's mom and dad are just together and not working on the M that they know is toxic, then of course that's not healthy. What I don't understand are couples who CHOOSE to stay miserable and don't do anything to make themselves happy with each other.

I think that when a couple doesn't consider D on the table, then they are halfway there to a happy M. It takes work, it takes dedication, but once they decide to make it work, the M thrives and grows.