Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

Okay, I will reply in sandwich of good-bad-good news.

Good: I managed to stay busy working out, etc. from about 8:45-11.
We left for lunch and I was myself (repeating these words from Cutter, thank you!!). WH paid for all of us. We had pleasant conversation about his mom and the place. He voluntarily told me that a male co-worker of his recommended the place. Apparently there is another franchise in the same town where the coworker and OW live. I realize that WH is good at lying, but he seemed convincing as he tried the food like it was the first time he tried it.

Then he wanted to go to the store to pick up some more ointment and pedialyte for S. So we had nice time shopping and puttin S in the cart for the first time!

When we returned, I got busy cleaning. As I stopped to take something out of the vacuum I noticed there was a LOT of my hair! I made comments like wow, there is enough for a baby doll and how it's unfortunate that my hair gets all over the place and if it was short it wouldn't have been a problem! He said Me and S like your long hair. I pretended to not notice but it was a compliment about my appearance which is what I was waiting for.

WH and S took a nap. I left to get an ice cream cone from DQ, returned and continued cleaning.WH observed that I vacuumed the stairs and said it looked really nice. I explained that I discovered a different attachment which made it a lot easier than what I tried before (he used to be the one to vacuum the stairs).

Bad: WH sat down about 15 minutes before he left and had the visitation schedule in front of him. He said he hadn't filled out the Saturdays yet. I asked why and he explained he wanted to see him longer on those days. Long story short (sorry Ravenly!) I stayed calm and we worked out 8-4.

BUT I accidentally said "Not this Saturday, though!" He asked me if I had plans and I said maybe (I was trying not to tell him!) He said I didn't have to tell him what I was doing. I backtracked and said that I just hadn't finalized the plans yet. (In our previous conversation I explained that some Saturdays I would want to take S with me to do stuff and he had said to lethim know and he would work with me).

So he might think S and I are going together somewhere. Damn!
THEN he said he knew I wasn't comfortable with the idea, but he wanted to start taking S overnights, like on Fridays and return him around 1 like it said in the parenting plan. He said it could happen 2-3 months from now if I needed more time to get used to the idea. I told him that I needed to take him to a baby shower on the 22 but we could start next Friday if he wanted. He said that the 29th would be fine to start.

Good: I am finding a MOnday night class to take, maybe Pilates. So I will be able to cut dinners to one night per week. The class doesn't start for a few weeks but I plan on lying and telling him tomorrow that I signed up and it starts on Monday.

I think it might be more realistic if I told him I was taking a class on Monday nights instead of abruptly telling him I will be going out every Monday night.

So what do you think?
Also, I toyed with the idea of telling him tomorrow that he could take S this Friday and the next, so that I could get used to it. ???? The problem is that S will have to spend a night at OW's for the first time, AND part of the night on Saturday at my SIL because I have plans on Saturday.

Please advise! Go ahead and give me 2x4s as needed! Or tell me I am doing something right. ARRRGGHH! At least he hasn't brought up D.