Good on you!!! How is offering to be available 20 minutes BEFORE his scheduled time keeping him from the baby, though?
I understand your fear - but as long as you are available according to the court documents, you are BETTER than good!
An even better response? "X, we're not available until the scheduled time this afternoon." Then followed up by your excellent point for more notice for REQUESTED changes. And just because he asks, doesn't mean it works for you every single time.
He is in for some adjusting - but you will be SO better off for it!
(((hugs)))
I get worried because I know he is already lying about the visitation to people. What is going to keep him from lying in court saying I cancel or deny him visits when I really haven't? I do have my journal, but didn't save every text from the last year.
He will stomp his feet and get angry. Not sure when/if he will take me to court. Maybe when he finds a sugar momma that has $$. Even then he will have the burden of proving he is sober and stable. Things I need to keep in mind.
You are right DF! He is in for an adjustment. I am not stopping him from seeing baby, but in reclaiming my life I am no longer letting him come and go when he feels like it.
For instance...right now is in the middle of his 'visit time'. No call. Nothing. He must be busy with something else...fine, but he can't complain then.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
