Just wanted to say that I am sorry you find yourself here and that it's always a tough time, early on.
The DB C had suggested to me that you think about being bright when you do see him, cheerful and happy, but dark in terms of not contacting him or initiating contact. Be friendly when you see him, but end things first?
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D