Only worried about what she is doing in as much as "is she having a PA", and if so how do I find out and what do I do about it.

Everyone says the rules change if that's the case!

H: 44
W: 42
Married: 23 years
Bomb: 16/07/2009
PA Confirmed: 16/01/2010
Over it & working on ME: Feb'ish 2010