GIMA - I just caught up on what happened and I am very sorry. Take heart in the fact that you did all you can and didn't lift a finger to end your M - she did. You can go to your grave knowing that you did everything you can and can look your kids in the eyes and know that this is true as well. You did right by them.
The thing that makes me stop short of filing is that little voice inside of me that says 'what if you did a, b, or c, first to see if it made a difference', where one of the choices is wait just a few weeks longer (maybe a miracle will happen). I am afraid of having regrets.
If WAW files for D then we are 'off the hook' so to speak as far as possibly having regrets for not trying something else or waiting longer, even though we know waiting in the same state doesnt' solve anything.
You were headed here anyway except for the pause for the holidays, but at least you can take a little comfort in these points hopefully. If you were headed here anyway then this is probably the better way to go (her driving, not you) since you never wanted a D (it is our last choice as DB'ers).
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
