I don't think it was necessarily a bad idea, but given how far gone she is right now, I don't think it will help.

Even if OM let her go, she'd find someone else to punish you (and herself) with.

Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."