I hope everyone had a great holiday! I'm so glad it's 2010 and just ready to start a new chapter. For those of you who don't know my sitch, my stbxh had an affair with the VP of his company and the suspicion of hidden assets, etc. might soon come to fruition. Did I/we ask for any of this? Of course not, but the journey, although emotional, has caused me to take a hard look at myself and how I contributed to the collapse of the marriage and how I will take the information into my future relationships. Lots of work on myself and lots more to do. I definitely subscribe to the GAL mentality and am starting to again do all the things I loved and forgot about. My permanent orders are set for April 16 if all works out and I hope to be well on my way before then. My advice is to surround yourself with supportive and positive people, take time to vent, but also move forward each and every day (whatever that looks like for you). I no longer beat myself up over my mistakes and what I could have done differently. It is what it is and this is so much more about him than me. BUT, I now make my life about ME and that's the difference. Thanks to each and everyone of you for the support you gave me when I couldn't get off the floor in those early summer months.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
