You want to change your "baby step" into a great leap?
Make your baby step a 180 goal - I wanted my wife to ask me out on a date while we were seperated. Guess who got asked out on a date? What do you think was more powerful me asking her or her asking me?
The key then is understanding and doing what it takes to become that attractive again. Will it work ? - no expectations - but you will be doing the right things regardless of the outcome (detaching.)
Great for you, solutions oriented, and healthy. Strength and Honor.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.