You might want to mention if you think YOU were the "resentful, Angry, or Emotionally Abusive" spouse, or if you think she is those things....
Be careful not to place too much self-blame for the sitch - it puts you in a weaker position that doesn't garner respect...
I'm not sure, either. I know that my ex didn't read ONE thing that I gave him or left lying around - he didn't want to be "brain-washed" or convinced he was wrong.
