New to this Community seeking advice

[MichelleLT]

Gifts are something you send to someone you are already friends with or dating. That might be a bit much right now. (Although I have to ask if you used to send little gifts or flowers, and/or if she ever expressed a desire for you to do so?) But friendship is based on connection. On conversation.

What do you do with your friends? Do you send cards for birthdays? Cards or texts for holidays?

Steps towards friendship would be increased communication about mundane things, daily life, hopes and dreams. The conversation would be more relaxed, chatty. Conversations would probably become more frequent and longer.

But there's a very fine line between pursuing friendship and pursuing her.

You can feel her out, try a 180 like a letter or phone call, but you would need to be in a place to do it with no expectations.

Letters are good for things that may take more time to absorb, that she may want to re-read. Phone is a good way to built instant rapport. E-mail or text is a good because there is less pressure, it's more safe.

The best part about DBing is that it's about what works. What works for you, and what might work for your R. There is no formula, even though there are trends. Change the things that aren't working, and continue things that work - that's the basic thing. Brainstorm solutions, test them out.