Checkout meetup.com, I found a parents group there, and had lunch with them where the leader of the group was a single mom with 18 month old son, whom was at the lunch with us. We are making plans to do things with the group, and the kids. Some nice people you can meet with like interests of all types!
The mommy group I belong to is a meetup group. All younger than me, and all married but its something to do.
Originally Posted By: iwantittowork
I understand that, but make the focus on you right now, and making you the best you can be. The rest will work itself out as you do. It's what has been key for me to focus on, and I realize I am so NOT ready for a relationship as I fix up my own 'house' so to speak. You WILL find other people in your life, when you accept that you WILL, you can then focus on the tasks of doing the things you need to make yourself better, and have fun. You don't need anyone but yourself to do these things, and then when you have found and are the real SO2, you'll be ready, and know it.
I meant more of not keep having that hope that exh would turn around and be this magical guy with remorse and a new attitude. I want to let go of that dream and look forward to possibly something new in my life someday.
Originally Posted By: iwantittowork
This one is going to be up to you to decide, to me it is way to much for him to be doing this 5 times a day. I don't speak to my STBXW at all, and I am fine with that.
You'll have to stick up for yourself and tell him to stop it, and you won't respond anymore. You'll need to mean it, then cut it off, and yep he will get mad, and stomp around like a little kid. Too bad for him. You can't react to him if he gets mad, that is not your problem it is his.
Only you can stick up for you in this sitch, and stop him bullying you. It will be tough, painful at times, tearful, and hard, but you can do it, if that is what you want.
This will probably be the hardest to do. He seems to think that I need to respond to every text because its HIS daughter and he has a RIGHT to know where she is and what she is doing 24/7.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
