Moving on with my life!

[iwantittowork]

Great! I like the list, notice most of it focuses on you, and that is good! Keep it up!

Hmmm...Let's see! I want to be more social with and without baby. I really did enjoy getting out for a bit the other night. I know that being out frequently or for long periods of time won't fly right now, but a nice dinner or a movie would be fun. I want to hit more mommy group activities than I have been in the last few months. When the weather is nice I feel better and want to get out more.

Checkout meetup.com, I found a parents group there, and had lunch with them where the leader of the group was a single mom with 18 month old son, whom was at the lunch with us. We are making plans to do things with the group, and the kids. Some nice people you can meet with like interests of all types!

I want to have more of an open mind to really moving forward, possibly meeting someone and having another relationship. I know I need to get my head straight, but want to look forward to that.

I understand that, but make the focus on you right now, and making you the best you can be. The rest will work itself out as you do. It's what has been key for me to focus on, and I realize I am so NOT ready for a relationship as I fix up my own 'house' so to speak. You WILL find other people in your life, when you accept that you WILL, you can then focus on the tasks of doing the things you need to make yourself better, and have fun. You don't need anyone but yourself to do these things, and then when you have found and are the real SO2, you'll be ready, and know it.

This is where I get real confused on what to do and where to have my boundary.

This one is going to be up to you to decide, to me it is way to much for him to be doing this 5 times a day. I don't speak to my STBXW at all, and I am fine with that.

You'll have to stick up for yourself and tell him to stop it, and you won't respond anymore. You'll need to mean it, then cut it off, and yep he will get mad, and stomp around like a little kid. Too bad for him. You can't react to him if he gets mad, that is not your problem it is his.

Only you can stick up for you in this sitch, and stop him bullying you. It will be tough, painful at times, tearful, and hard, but you can do it, if that is what you want.