Originally Posted By: iwantittowork
What do you have in mind? There's a whole open world in front of you full of your things to do with you, your child, and healthy happy people that you bring into your life around you!


Hmmm...Let's see! I want to be more social with and without baby. I really did enjoy getting out for a bit the other night. I know that being out frequently or for long periods of time won't fly right now, but a nice dinner or a movie would be fun. I want to hit more mommy group activities than I have been in the last few months. When the weather is nice I feel better and want to get out more.

I NEED to finish my online classes that I have signed up for. I can only do them when baby is sleeping, but need to carve out more time for that.

I want to have more of an open mind to really moving forward, possibly meeting someone and having another relationship. I know I need to get my head straight, but want to look forward to that. Who knows when or if that will happen but want to put my relationship with exh behind me and not get anymore false hopes no matter how hard he tries to reel me back in.

On that thought I need to have quick comebacks to his attacks when I pull away like I am now. He takes me not responding as I am ignoring him because I am pissed off at him. He will also get mad if I don't respond to certain messages about baby and need to be quick on my feet then.

So when people say keep it about baby only...well, that can mean I will respond to many texts per day. Especially on the weekends when he is a texting fool! I will get maybe 5 texts thru the day asking "how is baby?" "Give baby a kiss for me." "What are you two up to?" Do I need to respond to each and every one? If I ignore he will keep sending over and over and then ask why I don't respond.
This is where I get real confused on what to do and where to have my boundary.


Last edited by Startingover2; 01/06/10 08:41 PM.

Me: 46 FWS: 36
Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07
Baby Girl born 3/08
Kicked him out because OW: 7/08
5/10 He realized what he had and lost.
Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!