All 3 of you may as well get used to her negligence right from the start. Your wife would only be pretending to be an attentive parent if she called. She could never maintain the pretense. The kids would just have to catch on later that she is self-centered and they are not her highest priority. They may as well learn it now and get used to it. That will not change. At least not for the better. This is why they have a good father. In fact, your wife chose you to be their father for exactly this reason.
