All signs point to game over!

[Cie la vie]

I thought I would post an update to my sitch. My W finalized her arrangements for her new apartment and will be out of the house before the end of the month.

She is trading a beautiful 3/2 2100 sf home in a wonderful neighborhood for 2/1 1000 sf apartment on the 10th floor of a high rise apartment bldg. that resembles a Southside Chicago project. This will cost her approx. $1,800/month.

On the A front I noticed she blocked out the 12-15 of Feb. as she will be "out". Naturally she didn't consult with me on this even though temporary custody is schedule to be work out at our mediation session next week. She is clearly flying off to see the OM. I'm trying to decide how I should deal with latest news. She apparently expects me to simply handle the twins whenever she decides to leave to see the OM.

I had considered telling her that I will not be party to furthering her A by watching the twins while she is away. This would require her to pay for nanny coverage for nearly four full days (24 hours) which would cost her approximately $1,100.00. This would be quite punitive and may comeback to bite me in future negotiations in the D proceedings. Not sure this is the route to go.

It bugs the sh*t out me that she feels she can block out a holiday weekend when she doesn't even work and leave me wtih the responsibility to care for the twins solo while she is out getting shebanged by the OM. Do I take the high road and instead of the above suggest she pay for nanny coverage during the day on Sat. and Sun and possibly Mon.?

That would cost her about between $280.00 and $420.00. Or do I take the hard line and leave her holding the bag for the duration of her trip?

Also, what sort of DBing route should I take when she moves out? Should I simply go dark on her except for dealing with the kids or is there a differnt strategy I should employ? I never received DR and can't refer to it for advice.