Yes - I started the 180 myself - and I know it will take time if it indeed does work. I'm a bit calmer this afternoon - so doing ok. I will continue my 180 - I will continue to work w 23 yr old son on his continued recovery and his eventual exit from the house - and I will continue to spend time with daughters 21, 11 and enjoy as much as possible. I am really starting to think in my case that my wife won't respond until house is sold, the family is separated into apartments, and the reality of the situation sets in. Maybe then - when all will appear lost - she will see what happened to a wonderful family - that had problems no doubt - but was strong, loving and living a life together. I don't know. What I do know Sandi is that I realized you were right - she didn't cheat me out of 25 years because they were all great when we were together in marriage - every second I will cherish. I'll continue my 180 and see where it goes. I have also decided to join a local divorce support group - that will start Jan 15 - make some new friends who have been thru some of this kind of thing - I need to turn the corner and do something for me at the moment.......
Me: 48 W: 47 M: 25 years T: 30 years S24, D21, D11 Bomb dropped: "Not in love with you" 10/09 Separated Feb 2010
