I talked to a new MC today and askdd if she was pro marriage. She said she is but has no magic formula. I told her that my W wants MC to bring closure to the marriage. This counselor told me that if my W had already made up her mind to end the marriage then there wasn't much she could do. She seemed to have a pessimistic view on hope. She told me that it generally takes two years for the W to change her feelings and want to work on the marriage.
I am devasted by this news. I guess I should call another counselor. I am hoping that all of my changes will make a difference. I am hoping that my W would feel different in 6-10 months, not two years.
Can anyone who has gone through a similar situation tell me how long before their W changed and started to try to work on the marriage? For the W who separated from your husbands, how long was it for you until your feelings changed and you wanted to try working on the marriage or give your H a second chance?
I could really use some help right now.
M 38 WAW 36 Together 19 years Married 12 years Bomb/Separated Oct. 09 I love my wife Sitch