New to this Community seeking advice

[JR09]

Carlos,

So good to hear from you. Michelle also posted to encourage me while I was on leave. I'm now back at work. Tired from a long 900 mile drive yesterday and the day before. I really tried to maximize my week with the boys. Made tons of memories. The boys each approached me in their own way to tell me how much they miss and love me. I needed that affirmation for my own sanity. S12,S10, and S7 had a blast.

In that short week, W called us twice to just "say Hi to the boys". I think she actually wanted to be with us, but just didn't find the strenght to come along. I did invite her on 2 occasions to join us for lunch, but she declined.

When W came to pick the boys up, she had a hard time watching me say goodbye to the boys. I told her she looked great. She felt awekward and just drove away. Never said anything else, no R talk, no D talk, nothing. Maybe that's a good thing. Last year, after we've benn apart for 6 months, before she drove away, I brought up the R, and 3 weeks later, I was served D papers. At that time I haven't even heard of DB yet. I was pursuing, begging, etc. I kinda forced the R talk and Bam!, received D papers in the mail.

This time, I knew better not to bring up the R. I think I did all right. Shall I try to feel her out and probe the situation a little to see what she may think? If so, how could I do that? Some of my friends say it's time to ignite some fire and ask the tough questions. I'm not sure that's really what I want to do now. But is it time to probe the situation a little? Any advice? It's been 18 months since W left.

JR09