The gophers might care who filed, in the fullness of time no one else will give a hoot. Most of the time it's really a joint decision, even if both parties don't want to admit it.
In my mind, he doesn't think you will file, so he is more of less trying to manipulate the situation. I think there's no time like the present to put a stop to that.
If it's not what he wants, he can step up after you file as easily as before.
He can then tell the kids, the family, the friends, the gophers in the yard, the aliens that visit him at night etc...I filed for the divorce and that he was willing to work on it had I given him a little more time.
Filing does not stop either of you from working on the marriage. Coach and Greek are a testament to that.
Your dry sense of humor cracks me up - Truth be known - I have never seen a gopher in my life except in the movie Caddyshack however it seems appropriate at this time.
You are correct - He doesn't think I will do anything because I love him...While I do love him, I love myself a little bit more everyday, so as my mentor says - "Consequences".
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
I am going to follow my gut and do what "I" think is the right thing to do.
I am going to do what I feel He wants me to do.
I am going to be awesome once this is all over.
I feel like a big pile of marble on the threshold of being carved into something fantastic...
Each day for the last 11 months a little more has been chipped away...
Some days there was more chipping then other days...
Carve, carve, carve...
Look what is being formed...
Emotions I haven't touch on in years, beliefs grounded in my God, Faith that grows by the minute, relationships being cultivated in a way they should have been from the get go, joy from the smallest details in life that others sometimes ignore, taking time to do things for me...
Carve, carve, carve...
What is that sound? Laughter, something people around her haven't heard in a long time, whispers in the dark to her little one who is still scared, sacred talks with her and her older one...
Carve, carve, carve...
People see her, she looks different now...What is the change? Weight is lost, hair is longer, eyes are shining bright, head held high, is that a smile on her face when before she just scowled? Is she actually skipping? My gosh she sure the hell is.
Carve, carve, carve...
What is happening now? She is still changing...She is still growing...One day soon, she is going to be something absolutely wonderful...
And that is how I see myself now.
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Couldn't see the lawyer today so I made my way to Child Support division to let them know what has happened recently...
Because everything has been held up with the lack of birth certificate for my oldest, she said there wasn't anything they could really do...
The state doesn't have "emergency child support"...
After some consideration, she asked her supervisor if they could use my marriage license until the birth certificate comes in - Yep we can...Great! And I imagine you've already submitted the request to the state for the BC?
So I will drop that off tomorrow and we go from there...
I found out that the money will be pulled directly from his check before he is even paid so no need to worry about him whining that he doesn't have the money this month...HA!!
It will also go back to the day he walked out...Double HA!! She then let me know they are there to help turn this around for me. Hooray, Serenity!
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
