What can I do to save my marriage? Help

[Ready2Change]

Hey, I will hit your questions to SC. I will answer based on my CURRENT understanding:

I was wondering. Do you think if I showed a copy of your first post to my wife she would get the idea that I understand how she feels?

DO NOT SHOW HER THE POST. Use the information to make positive changes to the way you interact with W. Show compassion. Balance it with all the other new tools.

Do you think this would make a difference?

No.

Do you think if your husband really knew why you were divorcing him

He did.

and had empathy, and understood how you felt that it would make you feel better?

He was not willing to make the changes required. He was doing it to save the M, not to improve himself.

Does it matter when you get to this stage?

No. All you can do is work on yourself and the way you interact with S and others.

Can you ever take your heart out of the box?

They will. They hurt just as much as we do. Time heals....