Was working on something. No, I have not separated them. I am thinking things through.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
My guess is he's still "stuck". Stuck in the "Mr. Nice Guy" role.
Which leads to thinking like "if I do this it might upset WAW and cause her to file or ...." What you eventually learn by READING the books that many have suggested is that this is the opposite of what happens. The more you do to FORCE the WAS to FACE the REALITY of what THEY are doing the better chance you have at getting them to come out of their trance. Think of your WAW as being in a trance like Indiana Jones was in the Temple of Doom. You need to keep burning them with REALITY so they can WAKE UP to the DAMAGE that is being done.
Or just keep on doing what you have been doing aka "cheeseless tunnels" because thats definitely been working for you.
Like I said. Now that my X is out of her trance, which took 2.5 years she is DEALING with the REALITY of all the DAMAGE she caused. Dont get me wrong. I have OWNED my part as well, but we all know how that goes when the WAS is in their "trance" aka fog, possessed state, abducted by aliens, etc..
2.5 years? I am 17 months into this. At what point did you move forward with separating accounts PMA? And was your W in a better financial career where she could have cared less?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Are you and your W back together. Forgive me for not remembering. If not, what is that status and why?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
