You have to figure that your W's friend will talk to your W, and you get to look like a 7th grader.
There's a journey you are on. You might succeed in restoring your marriage, or you may not. But if you are going to succeed, you can't try to take shortcuts.
You shouldn't be trying to do things to move closer. You should be doing things to work on yourself. If you are doing nothing, you are not doing it right. But doing something does not mean pursuing, and being needy.
